Well, that was fast.
If I'm being completely transparent, it's not like I signed up for online dating at the stroke of midnight, 2014. I've had an okCupid account for years, I'd dabbled with Match once before, and I downloaded Tinder right before I left to travel back home for Christmas. I'd built a foundational correspondence with #1 a couple of weeks before committing to thirteen first dates. I hope this doesn't reflect poorly on #1 himself; in conversation with friends I referred to him as a "legitimate prospect." It isn't that I thought this date would go particularly badly; I've just done enough casual online dating to know that there's a big difference between a pic with a profile and a flesh-and-blood human. That's my biggest challenge with meeting people online. I tend to create a version of them in my head that inevitably doesn't quite match reality. If I've learned anything, it's that the best option is to just meet guys as quickly as possible. If I can determine in a few messages that we have something in common and you are not overtly misogynistic or racist, then I'll probably be willing to meet you in person, especially if we're in the same town. Even if I'm not super physically attracted to you...because if I've learned two things, it's that no matter how good the picture, people never quite look exactly like you expect them to. I was a little nervous about meeting #1, in part because we'd been texting for like two weeks. In two weeks of texting it is very easy to fabricate a voice or a sense of humor. But, he drove two hours to meet me at Applebee's on a Sunday afternoon, so A+ there, #1. He was of medium height. Medium build. Medium-brown hair. I think he was wearing a gray shirt. Very medium. (Can one be very medium?) Conversation was good, a little awkward at times. It seemed like he was revealing more information about himself than he'd intended to, but while he shared a few things that were unusual, there was nothing that would make me run screaming to the hills. He was... nice. Medium? I didn't feel a ton of chemistry, but it's hard to know with just one date whether someone is being themselves. If he asks, I'd see him again.
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